| Principles For Marital Harmony |
| Written by David Trumble |
| Monday, 30 November 2009 09:20 |
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In the United States, we are taught that at least according to our constitution, all men are created equal. It took over a over sixty years just to put an end to slavery. It took another fifty years before the concept included women. It took another sixty years before laws and court decisions enforced the concept that all men and women are created equal in the views of law. Yet , there are many examples of social bias, prejudice, discrimination, and injustice.
In the United States, we are taught that at least according to our constitution, all men are created equal. It took over a over sixty years just to put an end to slavery. It took another fifty years before the concept included women. It took another sixty years before laws and court decisions enforced the concept that all men and women are created equal in the views of law. Yet , there are many examples of social bias, prejudice, discrimination, and injustice. Nowhere is this battle more evident than in our homes. Today, marriages in America face huge threats from society as well as confusion within our homes. The desire for freedom, and the oppression of the weak leave no one untouched. How does all of this affect our marriages and homes? Apparently, it has affected thousands of homes as indicated by the over half of first marriages and over two thirds of second marriages ending in divorce. The Bible teaches a set of dynamic principles to guide husbands and wives in their roles. These have sometimes been distorted or misapplied, however, when properly understood these principles go a long way toward enabling life-long marriages. First Concept : Marriages thrive on mutuality. Whether you come from a Biblical perspective or just want a great marriage, this concept works. When husband and wife mutually give themselves to each other, both thrive. When husband and wife plan, work, and cooperate together, everyone wins. Rule two: Man is charged with the task of leadership to the couple and family. Leadership sets the standards, values, priorities, and direction for the marriage and family socially, morally, economically, and spiritually. Effective leadership demands sensitivity to his followers, partners, and subordinates. To fulfill his leadership responsibilities, he must consider the needs, wants, and ideas of his wife being willing to sacrifice his own desires to meet her needs. A leader protects those he leads. He avoids putting his family and his marriage at risk. He sacrifices his own desires, needs, or welfare in order to keep his family safe. Threats may come in many forms, but the husband leader remains the steady defender of his home. Concept C: Providing for the needs of his family is the duty of the husband. With hard works and self sacrifice, the husband is expected to supply the needs of his family. A dedicated wife will assist her husband and encourage him in his effort to meet this responsibility. Rule D: Companionship is the mission of a wife. Her duty is to join her husband to mutually pursue the dreams of marriage and family. Honor, respect, and assistance are the wife's critical contribution. She needs to willingly give herself to meet her husband's most basic needs. An abusive husband may abuse his wife, but a beloved wife freely shares her life, gives her love, and sacrifices herself for the welfare of her marriage and family. Giving always blesses. Giving always uplifts. Giving always blesses. Giving always strengthens marriages. When a man dominates or dictates to his wife, he fails as the leader of his home. It is essential that a man listen to his wife. It is vital that he be willing to sacrifice his pride, his self interest, even his own welfare to meet the needs of his wife. When husband fulfills his role as defined by these Biblical principles, the marriage and family are blessed. A wife is blessed when she share their life encompassed by true love, but even more when her own love uplifts and sustains their union. Your wedding can launch a dynamic marriage, and your marriage can be rock solid if you grab hold of the principles, resources, and tools available to you through the resource links below. About the Author: Get more details on weddings and marriage discover the huge resources available at WeddingHow. com where you will find Wedding Vows Samples including examples of traditional, Christian, and Jewish Wedding Vows and much more. Pick up a copy of the free ebook The Ultimate Wedding Resource Guide and explore the huge store of wedding favors and supplies. |