| Rebound Relationships? Good or Bad? |
| Written by Stan J. Van Sant |
| Monday, 16 November 2009 09:15 |
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Rebound relationships offer you a chance to get on with your life, put the past in its place and enjoy someone new. Only one thing: it's not all that simple.
Rebound relationships offer you a chance to get on with your life, put the past in its place and enjoy someone new. Only one thing: it's not all that simple. If you have been involved in deeply intimate, deeply intricate relationship, it is super critical you give yourself enough time and space to process the old relationship before you even think of moving on. Otherwise, you are dragging around old baggage. Is it remotely fair to your new interest to know that emotionally you are in another place, thinking of someone else? In body you may be in one place while your heart exists somewhere else. Before entering an involvement with someone who may have history of rebound relationships, you need to be asking some tough upfront questions: Are you emotionally over the past relationship? Has enough time elapsed to allow the processing of the emotions? Is it really time to consider an another deep involvement? What makes rebound relationships so alluring is they allow you to enjoy the easy stage of a blossoming romance. Very few troubles are encountered here. It is all lightness, laughter and love. But, as we all know, stage two lays just ahead. This is where the mettle of your new relationship will be tested. If you have the mind to throw caution to the wind and enter into one of these rebound relationships, know upfront what you're in for. After the cushy romantic section of a relationship comes phase two, where things get more difficult. Slow things down, if you can. If your new involvement is significant it can withstand a small dose of personal analysis. If you are not careful you'll find yourself to be an emotional band-aid, just filling a space that allows your new interest a little time to heal and move on to something else, someone else, all at your emotional expense and the cost of your heart. Do rebound relationships last? Unfortunately the statistics aren't very good. That doesn't mean very one of them is doomed to failure. But, know what you are getting into and the hazards that lay ahead. You'll be glad you did. About the Author: Discover A Systematic Road Map to Surviving Infidelity, visit Stan's site and discover How to cope with rebound relationships once and for all. |