| Relationships : Demonstrating Your Affection |
| Written by Mark Walters |
| Friday, 27 November 2009 09:50 |
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Some people are born romantics and, when you see such people effortlessly being romantic and loving, it's common to wonder why you can't be like that with your own partner. The fact is though, that very few people are naturally romantic, it is rather a result of practice on their behalf. Rather than just expecting romance to happen, as if by magic, they have spent time learning what it takes to be romantic. This is something which you can learn and practice too.
Some people are born romantics and, when you see such people effortlessly being romantic and loving, it's common to wonder why you can't be like that with your own partner. When it comes easy to people though, like most things in life, it's because they have practiced at it. They have simply taken the time and made the effort to find out what their partner wants, and then found interesting and exciting ways to deliver it. You first need to recognize the whole point of being romantic, which is to make your partner feel cared for and special. Then, you need to understand that plenty of little, but thoughtful, gestures on a regular basis is better than the occasional, large gesture. Well, in an ideal world, you would implement both approaches but, start small and regularly first, and then add in grander gestures as added surprises. If you are not entirely sure what your partner wants, you may need to try different things at first. If you are short on ideas for ways to demonstrate your affection, try some of the following suggestions: -Send a text message saying how much you love them -Write and post a letter to them -Send them a romantic email -Give compliments each and every time you see each other -Always kiss them before you leave and when you return -Unexpectedly kiss them -Give them hugs and affectionate squeezes -Hold hands while walking together -Leave love notes lying around -Call your partner just to say "Hi" -Make cooking and serving candlelit dinners a regular occurrence -Have intimate lunches together -Give flowers on days other than birthdays, Christmas, valentines, etc. -Write them a romantic poem -Write a list of the reasons why you love your partner and stick it on their bedroom wall -Giving your partner a slow gentle massage -Phone just before going to bed to wish them sweet dreams There are of course other things that you could do, but those ideas listed above are more than enough, so long as you follow them through and put your heart into them. By implementing even a few of them, your partner will be in no doubt as to how your feelings towards them. Also, remember, that affection returns affection, so, by starting to be affectionate and romantic yourself, your partner will soon starting responding to you in the same way. Soon enough, you will be romantic bliss! |